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Are all women really bisexual?

2/27/2017

 
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Are all women really bisexual?
Katrina Woods and Dr Christopher Watkins
 
There may be a common stereotype of some women who, at a certain point in their life, experiment with ‘bi-curiosity’ and consider their possible feelings or romantic attraction toward other women (at least in certain areas of California...). But what does the science say about this and is this a good example of research that the media portray perhaps too vaguely with ‘click-bait’ headlines?
 
Recently, the BBC (among others) produced an article on a recent piece of sex research, under the headline ‘no woman is totally straight’. To be fair to the journalist, they do highlight the complex picture painted by this research. But perhaps there are a few details to clarify when you go deeper into the original paper. Indeed, they quote the researcher, but perhaps leave out an important point from his quote within the title…
 
The study in question shows that women who like women have a ‘male-typical’ pattern of sexual arousal when they take part in arousal experiments within a sex research laboratory. Here, ‘male-typical’ represents something typical of an average male in contrast to an average female (rather than all males/females). The interesting research in this area demonstrates that men’s arousal patterns correspond more closely to their reported sexual orientation than women’s do – men are more aroused by erotic images/videos of their preferred sex, whereas women tend to be aroused both by erotic images/videos of men and women.
 
Researchers have in the past measured arousal by looking at the extent to which their pupils dilate, reports of how aroused they feel and genital arousal measured via equipment known as a plethysmograph, which measure changes to characteristics such as penile circumference in men and blood flow to the vagina in women.
 
The key point outlined in the research, when you look in greater detail, is that different patterns of arousal among women do not imply or translate to different patterns of orientation (e.g. arousal by itself does not imply bisexuality). In terms of sheer numbers, rates of same-sex sexual activity do not differ between men and women. Arousal patterns on the other hand appear in women not to be limited to a particular biological sex.
 
This and other interesting lab research appears to highlight the ways in which a typical male’s sexual orientation is tied more intimately to his experience of arousal than a typical woman’s is. Other external motivations may be important in shaping female sexual motivations and responses across their lifespan, while intrinsic/bodily factors may be more important as a motivator for men’s sexual behaviours.
 
Some argue that greater variability in female sexuality may have helped ancestral females in early human evolution if, for example, general attraction to women enabled them to gather support from multiple sources in difficult times.
 
Although still surrounded by some taboos with regards to receiving public funds, sex research began to gain some prominence post World War II, with pioneers such as Drs Alfred Kinsey, William Masters and Virginia Johnson (see dramatizations of their career in 2004 film Kinsey and television series Masters of Sex). Masters and Johnson thought of sexuality as lying on a spectrum ranging from exclusively heterosexual to exclusively homosexual. He considered sexuality as based upon potential emotional, romantic and visual thoughts and feelings toward both sexes, and considered a person’s exact position on the scale to have the potential to shift at different points in the lifespan.
 
Lots of exciting sex research in the lab now puts early ideas and studies on human sexuality to the test of rigorous science, with access to new technology and revision of early theories. An interesting array of ideas are emerging from modern science in this area. When examining sexuality, how intimately connected are our thoughts to our physical feelings and how, ultimately, we end up acting when we are in or seek an intimate relationship? Might average sex differences (even if subtle) in these three areas raise interesting questions for future research on relationships and sexuality, in terms of how men and women navigate an intimate relationship together (e.g. in challenging times) but also maximize pleasure/satisfaction (in the good times)!
 
Headlines in this area of research also need to be reported ethically and carefully, with a clear link to the primary research paper if available, especially if people’s primary source of knowledge on human sexuality is derived from modern media.
 
For an interesting introduction into this area of research, and to gain an idea of what sex researchers actually do, Dr Meredith Chivers gives an interesting talk to the general public on women’s sexuality which can be found here:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lYNNChcxzD0
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Image Credit (used from flickr under creative commons licence): Faking it by TorbakHopper

November: Mirror, mirror: Are we attracted to a partner who is similar to self or family?

12/4/2016

 
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“Mirror, mirror”: Are we attracted to a partner who is similar to self or family?
 
Catriona Bell

Have you ever looked at your partner and thought that they were your parent’s double, in their traits and mannerisms or their height, nose, hair or eyes (e.g. google Melania Trump's father and see if you think he resembles Donald)? Given that we resemble our parents, there may be a subtle hint of narcissism or something slightly ‘Freudian’ going on when we pick a romantic partner – so what does the research have to say on this?
 
In general, the idea of incest between relatives, across many cultures, raises various negative emotions and is a cultural taboo – even in cultures, for example, where non-genetic siblings are raised together as part of a family, the idea of sexual attraction between adoptive siblings is considered aversive. Strong negative reactions toward the idea of incest make sense in evolutionary terms, given that passing on similar sets of genes to offspring is risky for their health. But how does this play out in our initial attraction toward some people over others?
 
It seems that sharing subtle similarity in the face with someone you see across the bar might lead to trust, but not love, at first sight. When participants in the laboratory are asked to rate pairs of faces where one face is similar (in shape) to yourself and the other resembles a control participant of similar age, participants rate the self-resembling face as more trustworthy but tend either to view the resembling face as less-attractive than the other resembling face or judge little difference in attractiveness between the two. 
 
So was there any truth to Freud’s historical claims about attraction to traits in a partner that remind you of your opposite-sex parent? How might we reconcile this with the saying that ‘birds of a feather flock together’? The scientific evidence ironically might come from birds. Here, ‘not too much but not too little’ might be an appropriate way to view mating based on genetic similarity. Species want (unconsciously) to avoid inbreeding with genetically-similar members of the same species but also want to increase the probability of passing down any of their ‘good genes’ to the next generation. Accordingly, there appears to be some evidence for similarity between your romantic partner and opposite-sex parent, when we look at physical traits like eye and hair colour.
 
However, as we all come with different sets of parents and prior experiences while growing up, these experiences may shape whether or not birds of a feather end up ‘flocking together’. When women are asked to judge how attractive they find a face that resembles them, their childhood closeness to their father, but not their mother, predicts how strongly they are attracted to men who share some facial resemblance with the female participants. Women who were close to their father when growing up,
find a stronger appeal in male faces that share resemblance with self than women whose fathers were more emotionally distant.
 
So, it appears that when we make a decision about a stranger’s attractiveness we refer to a ‘mental template’ of their resemblance to family, and depending on our past experiences, this might guide our initial reflections on them as a possible love interest. Flicking through your photos of your current or ex-partner might reveal common traits that attracted you to them in the first place – is the answer closer to home than you think?

Recommended reading:
Any work by Dr Lisa DeBruine (University of Glasgow)
Image Credit: 'Mirroring' by Lauren Anderson



October: From fiery passions to eternal flames

10/13/2016

 

From fiery passions to eternal flames

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Dr Christopher Watkins
 
“You’ve lost that lovin’ feelin’ – whoa, that lovin’ feelin’ – You’ve lost that lovin’ feelin’, now it’s gone... gone... gone…” – The Righteous Brothers
 
Many of us at some point in our lives crave love or a bit of romance or passion – and, ideally, for that feeling to last! Many shops hold excess ‘self-help’ books on the subject, and television experts give advice about how to find love and keep it. Are they helpful or do they sometimes confuse the issue, particularly when they discuss the reasons why love may or may not sustain the test of time?
 
Classically in psychology, there are thought to be three components to love – intimacy, passion and commitment – when all three are combined together into the ideal recipe, the love is said to be ‘consummate’. Feeling close to your partner, longing for him or her on a physical level, and having made the plans to stick with them and achieve goals together (lucky you, right?).







In general, positive romantic relationship quality is related to various measures of wellbeing – those who describe themselves as ‘very happy’ in their relationship also describe themselves as very happy in general. How and why might this feeling last, if this is what we desire?
 
Perhaps discouragingly, research suggests that perceived relationship quality declines over time, compared to the ‘fiery passion’ that may be associated with the adventure of a brand new relationship – but does this tell us all of the story?
 
In short, no. First of all, relationships, on average, decline in quality over time. This is an important point (in statistical terms) if reading about such research influences how individual couples look into a crystal ball at the future of their relationship after such heady and wild beginnings (i.e., all else equal, a typical couple, but not all couples will report relatively lower quality in their relationship compared to when it first kicks off and love feels like a drug).
 
But the brain can adapt to addictive substances which means, by definition, it may no longer ‘feel’ like a high.
 
Relatively lower relationship quality over time might simply reflect the trials and tribulations that would test any partnership over time – something that dating sites do not currently account for when attempting to match two people via their supposedly-successful algorithms (yet to be put to the test of science…).
 
But it might also reflect the many factors of relationship quality that move up or down the priority list over time. Researchers identify four dimensions – intimacy, agreement (going in the same direction), independence (a degree of ‘space’) and sexuality. Although all facets may play their role at various times, men and women overall ​rank intimacy highest and sexuality last on the list – both sexes value the experience of being understood and cared for, and being in a relationship where each takes some time to listen-to, talk-to, empathise-with or take interest in the other. Indeed, romantic love can last over time – psychologically, romantic love appears to be completely separate from ‘obsessional’ love that might be typical of the early-stages of a relationship. While feeling an intense connection with your partner is related to self-esteem and wellbeing, by contrast, there is a slight benefit to obsessional love in the early stages of a relationship, but a slight detrimental effect of obsession on relationship quality in the longer-term – for example, not being able to control your thoughts – because your brain is firmly fixated on him/her!
 
Romantic commitment may have been crucial for the human species – particularly a species such as ours, with ‘big brains’ and longer periods of investment in offspring to a point at which they reach ‘independence’. It seems, in turn, that we have developed many unique displays or ‘signals’ of love, to inform our partner that the feeling of commitment is there to stay. Recent work, for example, suggests that both ‘good’ and frequent kissing is related to relationship quality – sexual satisfaction is related to relationship quality (but is about half as important, in statistical terms, compared to having a partner who you think is a ‘good kisser’), but actual frequency of sex with partner has no bearing at all on relationship quality. Interestingly (and not following on from the previous sentence), even short-lived experiences of love might assist us in both good and bad times....


When couples are asked to talk about a positive recent event to their partner (not disclosed previously), simply sharing this story boosts self-reported feelings of love and not just their general mood. These brief experiences generate 'approach responses' toward partners, such as your desire for them, and nonverbal displays of love such as approving nods of head, leaning in, making gestures and producing genuine smiles. Crucially, those who report more love and show more love in the laboratory, also report sharing more activities together and are more involved in one another’s life goals. Such displays of love (even in a psychology lab) predict later success at working-out conflicts together, feelings of mutual trust and teasing one another in a loving (rather than hostile) way.
 
When dealing with challenges to relationship quality over time, the solution might not be that time-consuming or costly. Over time, a mental account of past disagreements or conflicts with your partner might build up ill-feeling or ‘debt’ in your account of a relationship over time – which could have a self-fulfilling effect on how arguments flourish from nowhere! But a simple 7 minutes’ worth of reflection (over several stages) on prior conflict from the perspective of a  neutral third party directly-reduces distress – boosting empathy for your partner and how good you judge your relationship to be in general.
 
So while relationships may slope downward over time (on average), the decline is far from inevitable for individuals. Sharing time even in brief encounters boosts feelings of love and how couples talk through prior conflicts. Empathising with different points of view might also have powerful implications for how we re-evaluate past conflicts and then move forward constructively. 


It’s important to think about the multi-faceted nature of relationship quality – thinking about only one piece of the puzzle might promote defeatist or cynical attitudes about long-term relationships – completely unnecessarily! This may be especially relevant for those who believe in ‘true love’ and are overly-sensitive to changes to their relationship such as losing the ‘magic’ – when all that might be happening is that their relationship is flowering into a slightly different form. Just because someone might think they have lost that ‘lovin’ feelin’’ – it doesn’t mean to say it has gone, gone, gone…
 
Suggested further reading
Haidt, J. (2007). The Happiness Hypothesis: Putting Ancient Wisdom to the Test of Modern Science. Arrow.
 
Finkel, E.J., Slotter, E.B., Luchies, L.B., Walton, G.M. & Gross, J.J. (2013) A brief intervention to promote conflict reappraisal preserves marital quality over time. Psychological Science, 24, 1595-1601.


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    Catriona Bell, Katrina Woods, Dr Christopher Watkins

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